^^ The above quote from William Shakespeare is very intersting to think about.
Trust is hard to gain, hard to keep, and easy to lose. I believe everybody has good in them, but my opinion oscillates when trust is broken. If a friend, even an acquaintance, needs my help, I will go out of my way to help them. It is when that favor is unappreciated, I start thinking.
I am talking about a recent happening: A guy asked my friend for some money. Yeah, there's more to the story than that. So it was about midnight, and the doorbell rings. It rang twice before my friend goes downstairs, from his sleep, to answer the door. The guy at the door looked tired, scared, and helpless. He was standing there asking for money (like $80) to help him get a tow truck for his car that broke down about 2 miles away. My friend recognized this guy, an acquaintance he hasn't seen in awhile, and decided to help him. Moments later, my friend returns with the money and lends it to the guy. The guy, all excited, thanks him and assures him he will return the money first thing in the morning. The repetition of this sentence was almost annoying, as if you could start thinking that he probably will not return the money. Story ends with the guy not paying the money back. It's a true story but i'm not using names, because it's here as an example.
But, what a blow to one's judgment. It's hard to trust people; it's easier to give your trust when you believe that everybody is good and will respect you as you respect them. Unfortunately, this would be the ideal world, or a utopia, which everybody realizes it will not be.
Thinking about it now, it still upsets me, that people can be so oblivious to there words. I'm sure everybody has done it time to time, including me, but i'm hoping the effects of my actions were not as severe. I keep thinking of lines from movies or tv shows that help describe the situation:
"Trust everyone, just not the devil inside of them" -Italian Job
"Expect the unexpected and you'll never be suprised." -Ep of Scrubs
The latter quote is interesting to think about. "Expect the unexpected..." sounds easy, but seems really hard; it would be like you are always on your toes looking out for everything? or maybe just be prepared for the worst scenario, and it's that much better when the expected happens?
I can't change who I am though, I will continue trusting and respecting everyone as I wish they would do the same for me. I'll take the chance of giving my trust and hope for the best.
"The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when you discover that someone else believes in you and is willing to trust you with a friendship." -Ralph Waldo Emerson, adapted
If the trust is betrayed, I will move on, learning from each experience, as I did from my friends situation. But what can be learned from his situation? If someone you don't know that well asks for a little bit of money, instinctivly do not comply? Or trust that this person is different from the last and will follow his words and pay back?
I trust everything will work out in the end; as a Christian I like this quote, but then it gets me thinking again...
Proverbs 3:5,6 - Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.
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maybe i didnt explain the situation very well but anyways it didn't make sense after thinking about it, not the way you summarized it though, but yeah basically he got ripped off!
oops miles/blocks... oh well. same idea.
but yeah, i was commenting on a more general note.
"Expect the unexpected and you'll never be suprised." -Ep of Scrubs
im a pessimist by nature...so i dont think its too hard to expect the unexpected. not taken literally, but more as an expression, i always assume the worst. i guess that helps me cope with the sad reality that hardly anything ever goes according to plan.
I take friendship pretty heavily. like metro said, I can forgive, but I never forget. I mean I trust and respect everyone until they do something in my eyes for them to lose it. after its gone, it takes alot for me to give it back. some people ask me how i maintain relationships...because its very easy for me to shrug off those that have lost my respect (no matter how trivial the reason). close minded u may say? maybe...ive just always prepared myself to live on my own (which is kind of funny, bc human interaction seems imperative for humans to remain sane.)
"Proverbs 3:5,6 - Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."
ill lean on my own understanding and reasoning thank you very much. ill lean on his after he solves all the problems of the world for me.
Banks require collateral for a reason :).
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